Oh sure, I agree. She is 30. Would you marry a girl who slept around? Whether you question it or not is irrelevant. You are right about the emotional attachment. The DNA basically latches on to your brain and works its way into your On genetic make up. I love this woman and to make her feel secure I cut ties with all my girlfriends and avoided all women actually. Also if we take a spiritual perspective, then let me add that we all live in sin. for their partners. I respected her view so much. Thats roughly a new guy each month. Imagine for a moment that the United States was an egalitarian society. I understand where you are coming from but we do not agree on this topic. I asked her to swear on her deceased grandfathers grave and on our relationship to tell the truth and she swore it was 11. Now if you ask her and she lies about the number, then your point is much more valid in my opinion. I had been with 100 myself. have and wield. Sure, that is what many men (especially those who are getting up there) say. So there is a responsibility on both ends. issue out, then you should get out. You say what happened to encouraging people to do better, but how is continuing the practice of judging people on their past a good thing? I wouldnt. However, the end result is still the same. TSR Community Awards 2022 - VOTING NOW OPEN! The fact is a matter of biology. Because in each of our lives (male and female)we have had that hoeing moment. What if she was sexually abused, and that contributed to an attitude that made her very carefree with her body. Burn it. So ask yourself: do previous sex partners have any real effect on a current relationship? Since both of these experiences run down the same spinal nerve, it intensifies the feelings. There are so many reasons why she may have taken that path. That didnt bother me, because I dont really care. One wished the best for me. It is the little matter of lying about the past that makes it untennable. someone else. ), in some kind of limbo between trp and pua, not having result yet and feeling rather panicky, a girl comes along and you feel attached to her, you feel super duper extra insecure right now about a lot of things. Touch. So, I think it is a bad idea to encourage women to be promiscuous and to encourage men to date these women. They would always want to be with me even not wanting sex. Their sexuality is not only welcomed, it is encouraged and exploited by media as well as sex-worker and sex-entertainment industries. I can only imagine the disappointment her parents or my mother would express if they knew the truth about her. We're sinning again by lying! If u had slept with a hundred men would u have wanted anyone to judge u? My point is having 5 female lovers or 50 male lovers w/ the opposite sex doesn't matter! He is attracted to children by nature. I personally look at more who you sleep with not how many. I have self-esteem. and it goes on. 0. I understand your position, but I do not agree that it is the best approach. I really do agree that the double standard about sex partners is ridiculous. Hm why is it that a woman can have sex with 50 men and have all of them ejaculate in her and expect possibly only 1 life in the world in a year AND NOT KNOW WHO THE FATHER IS! We have been together for almost a year now. Men like having a feeling of conquering and powerlessness. Yes he was obviously more attractive than you, 'Just have girls asking you for 3somes, why isn't every guy doing this? See I do not expect for anybody to be with someone that does not share some of the same core values that they have. People shouldnt be so quick to judge others. The commandment is that we shall not fornicate .male or female. Report. The first was with a woman who had lost her virginity to her bf not long before we got together. to each their own. The girl you date shows her cleavage all the time. She had sex .. Study other animals the female usually has more sex than the male. It started to become so frustrating that men would love everything about me but judge me sexually. And possessive so I stopped having sex with them. A) Two long-term sex partners, had sex a total of 1000 times. Stephan when you say up your game If you are average and a past lover of hers was well endowed there is nothing positions, creativity, or use of toys can compensate for. amenities; whether it was in the far past or recent past. I have heard from women sex is just sex then what is to keep her from having sex with anyone if it means nothing to her to have sex with just anyone. sleep with more people towards the beginning of their dating/sexploration stage Of course you agree. I think it wouldve been good to also discuss the trust issue briefly. It matters. My guy friend in #1 is doing exactly that. Respect the choices shes made with her own body, respect the decisions that led her to where she is now. Serious question as this is a prob Im currently dealing withI met an amazing girl who I was 99% sure was my future wife. Plenty of respectable women do not live their youths as sluts, and it is THESE women who deserve our time, investment, and energies; not the sluts. Yeah I agree. I love this article! I cannot think of any psychologist orNeurologistwho would argue that humans actions have no weight on themselves or their behavior let alone mental health. Its more like rape in nature than sex but the female does not sleep aroundstudy this if you must knowand God says so too! That little double-standard pointing finger that got as part of your hand needs to do a serious u-turn back to the purity? love you back! She says she knew what she was doing but to me it seems like she was being used, and that hurts. Mentally.not so much. it just kills me that women be the main one judging other women. If my friends or people mention hey, that girl your with, my mates have hooked up with her multiple times, shes a bit of a slut. Somebody who DIDNT want that, ever. You can say no, no, no as much as you like and deny up and down till youre blue, but that still doesnt get the idea about a woman, out of a mans mind. Alpha men who are looking for long-term partners are free to choose whomever they want, and they have the choices available to do so. Make an effort to no longer throw it in her face, because that only makes it harder for her to be open and honest with you going forward. The biggest problem I have with marrying who has had past sexual relationships, I waited for her, but she didnt wait for me. And I ask you, why ride the Datson if youre looking for the Benz? There is nothing worse than dating a women with weak will power! Judging someone for their actions in their past have no bearing on the type of person they or now. To judge them is just wrong and unfair. Its choices, not mistakes. However, he is a hard-working and rich man. But most men with self-esteem, and who arent betas wont stoop so low to marry and have children with a slut. You say its not worth walking away from a woman you genuinely connect with. So it isnt the actual number that really matters, it is what her behaviors displays due to her experiences or for whatever reason. Therefore I believe a woman should be more selective in who she chooses. women wait for 10 men and get to choose 1. I believe the average male has a high sex drive, created to be the leader/pursuer.. You are the very reason Stefan was inspired to write this article. He is happy, so should the number hold that much power and the relationship end? I feel like I'm just in her head sometimes lmao. It comes in handy. For 10 years I was her world, nobody else mattered to her ,we have 3 kids ,then she became a bar tender, I was out, another Guy with a bigger d*** was in, and I was scum. Again I am not saying go out there and be loose just addressing your point about the wear and tear. Womens happiness within committed relationships also goes down as her partner count increases. If you are that Datson? Im in it right now. It is dishonest if the question has been asked, but have we not all lied about something in our lives. By your logic, if we make no judgments on our potential mates, and the past doesnt matter, it should not matter if our potential mate was a child rapist for 20 years, as long as s/he isnt currently raping children. I will never marry a girl who waspromiscuousin the past. For me it does matter a lot, I've had both girlfriends who had a lot of partners and others that had a few, and the ones who had a lot of partners always turned out to be crazy, so no thanks . To finally find a person you connect with, is it really best for you to move away from that because of a number. Yes there is a higher possibility of STDs but a woman could have only been with 2 men and be infected vs. the woman who had over 30 and is still disease free. Not only wasnt my dad in my life basically I got to the point where I was screwing a man using me I was gon do the using. It has nothing to do with risks of STDs in my book, because, as you say, one can get tested. Its not right for one gender and wrong for the other. 20, 30 or more men is wrong then I hope you take that same logic and school your boy on that too because every time she opens her legs to someone there is always a man willing to climb between them, and that makes him just as ho -ish following your logic. Thank you for your wisdom, Mr. Labossiere. And for the women who cry out that the number of partners doesnt matter, then why not just be honest. And our son, how would he view women? Marriage is a serious commitment intended to last a lifetime. In addition, the divorce rate in my country of Canada is lower than it is in the US, and we have a more sexually permissive culture as well. But everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Stop posting this stupid things. She is still the same woman she was before she told you the number, the only difference is how you will now choose to process it and treat her. Say what.. youre incel? on how people should behave with their bodies. Peace. Please! ! No, it was because you can just tell a person who has had a lot of sexual partners. Because I love him too much to have him leave me over my past like those other men have. least. Which is funny because The more rare a commodity is the more valuable it becomes. How about a thief? I agree totally. upbringing etc. Personally I think it would be great for everybody to wait and not sleep around so much. Yea I had a 3some with best friend and a dude we barely knew in college. Not for who they once were and no longer are. You are also right about men having to work harder to get sex. If u need to walk away sometimes and have a breath of fresh air. We block love sometimes for all the wrong reasons, and how many men she has previously slept with should never be one of them. Granted, I agree it may all come from some traumatic event or maybe an ongoing psychological/sociological issue (ie lack of a father or mother etc) andIn fact, the promiscuous women did suffer from some deepissues. The West is the last, civilized group that needs to comment 8. Sleeping around especially as a girl is similar. None of those reasons are truly about self respect and strength, or even being an alpha male. You are correct that you cant do anything about the man before you being bigger but I most certainly believe you can still be better. Not too many women want a man that other women dont want. Strawmen. 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